Being overly empathetic is not a disability. But it could be a psychological dysfunction.|
|Date:||February 6th, 2016 11:44 am (UTC)|| |
"This young woman" is in her fifties.
That does not negate your hopes for a good counselor; I hope so too. But let's have an accurate view: this is not a 22-year-old with no life experience. She was born in 1962.
If one has had life experience but still retains a worldview untouched by the world, is one in fact experienced? I have definitely heard "young woman" or "young person" used with a bit of a sniff to imply "lacking a mature worldview, no matter what the age of the individual involved." I've used that phrasing myself.
And now that morning meds have kicked in: "young woman," or "young person," applied to someone who is only young in per lack of maturity, can be a less-gendered synonym for "manchild." I cannot presume to speak for Ms. Netmouse, though, and she may have meant it differently. The original blogger does come across as much younger than you say she is.
I see that you or someone like you has mentioned this elsewhere. I acknowledge and honor your anger.
|Date:||February 7th, 2016 07:31 pm (UTC)|| |
So here is my thinking:
I don't want either "young" or "old" to be used as an insult, because both young people and old people can be quite insightful. If it is factually used as an assessment of someone's literal potential for life experience--whether or not they've gotten the most out of that potential--I'm fine with it, and that's how I read our host netmouse
as using it: as giving Casil the benefit of the doubt for not having as much oportunity to learn yet as others.
I honor her willingness to see people grow and learn, and certainly people can grow and learn at any age. I hope that Casil takes the opportunity to do so. But at a certain point I think we need to acknowledge that age is not the central factor, and I think that one's early fifties are well past that point. (I'm 37 myself. I think 37 would be well past that point.)
Yeah, I was just mistaken. She comes across as much younger than she is. I didn't mean it as an insult or a condescension.