On being Bisexual in a predominantly binary (Straight/Gay) world|
You know what best underscores your point to me? The fact that we have never had this conversation, despite both being bisexual women in heterosexual marriages with a kid. I spend a real amount of time fretting that I blend in so well that it takes real effort to stand with LGBT as a member.
When the subject of relationships or sexuality comes up, I usually jump at the chance to come out. But the response has been kind of strange. I've come out multiple times to my geeky knitting group because they FORGET. Because being bisexual in a monogamous heterosexual marriage means what? Recently, we were all sharing naughty stories about our history. I enjoy doing that, actually, and my naughty stories turned out to be not at all what my fellow knitters were expecting. Except that I KNOW I had brought up the fact that I was bisexual at a previous conversation with many of the same women.
I have no idea who RJ Aguiar is, but I watched the video you shared on Facebook, and I thought he was pretty awesome. Very smart, very witty, very clear.
(Actually, I really do feel that there's something different about sex and romance with a woman, and i miss it. I don't know if that's exactly *unfulfilled*, but yeah -- I feel like being bi and monogamous means giving something up in a way that might not be true for someone who is either gay or straight.)