On being Bisexual in a predominantly binary (Straight/Gay) world|
Frankly, I'd be more alarmed if my spouse said "Well, if you can't fuck everyone you're attracted to, you'll be completely unfulfilled and forever unsatisfied in a monogamous relationship and probably cheat," than if she said she was bisexual--- but that's what you just said isn't it? It just seems... unconnected to how sexuality and partnership works, mono- or bi-.
And I'm reminded, somehow, of McKinley's Rosie talking about a stallion being put to stud: "Yes, but that's not what you do. Is it?"
Well, and I think there may really be another axis, like, mono or poly (and just like all men who have sex with men are not homosexual, not all people who sleep with multiple people in the same time frame are poly).
But that's a whole separate thing.
Sigh. Why can't sex (and romance) just be about *people*? A brief Internet search reveals that we'll probably meet around 15,000 people in our lifetime. If we're statistical outliers, maybe we'll be sexually intimate with 200. (I have been an extraordinary slut, and have slept with less than one-tenth that number.) Can't the world just assume the answer to "Am I going to sleep with this person," is "Probably not, regardless of gender," and turn its curiosity to more fruitful ends?
Seriously, how is it anyone's business what my sexuality is, so long as I'm not scaring the horses?