Her default is "she" - Zer Netmouse — LiveJournal
Her default is "she"|
|Date:||September 11th, 2013 04:55 pm (UTC)|| |
While we have always read stories the way they are, characters with no genders have ended up being the gender of the child we are addressing. So Alex's baby doll was a boy baby and Jessie's baby dolls are girl babies. Alex's stuffed animals are male and Jessie's are female. Since the cultural default is male, I was more particular about bringing in female pronouns where there was no reason to favor one or the other, but at this point (they are 8 (today!) and almost 10) it is as natural as it used to be to make everything male.
The generic term "you guys" took some work. I detest it. My daughter is not a "guy." I do not refer to my children collectively as "you guys," except occasionally by accident, and even then, I hear myself say it and ALWAYS immediately correct myself and follow it with another call. I generally refer to them as "IJ kids," as in "IJ kids... time to go!" or whatever. At least at home, I will give my daughter the respect of being female, and my son the example of honoring his sister's gender.