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December 22nd, 2003
09:49 am

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sad Christmas season
we (Bill and I) are both sick. My parents are more sick. we just have a little cold. But my sinuses are in great distress right now, partly because we heard last night that a very dear friend of the family died, and every so often I have a thought that make me start crying.

Ken and Marty McClatchey were our next door neighbors where I was born. Their daughters, Suki and Suni, were about Sarah's and my ages. Ken took us to the hospital for me to be born. He took us to the hospital when I had convulsions at 11 months. He was one of those people you could always depend on to be there. Now he's gone.

For years, we got together every year for my birthday or for christmas, but we haven't been in very close touch since Sarah and I both moved out of town, Suki moved to Chicago, and Suni moved to Washington DC. I wouldn't have expected it to hit me this hard. I knew he had pancreatic Cancer and the prognosis was not good, and I thought I had accepted the fact that he would probably die soon.

I guess reality is often different from what you anticipate.

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From:tammylc
Date:December 22nd, 2003 07:03 am (UTC)
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From one sickie to another, big hugs. I'm sorry to hear about your friend.
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From:novapsyche
Date:December 22nd, 2003 08:40 am (UTC)
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I guess reality is often different from what you anticipate.

I too am learning this lesson this week.

*hug* I'm sorry to hear about your loss.
From:ex_erikvolso370
Date:December 22nd, 2003 08:42 am (UTC)
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If you need anything, let me know. I don't know what I can do for you down here, but whatever I can, I will.

My deepest sympathies and hugs.
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From:shsilver
Date:December 22nd, 2003 09:18 am (UTC)
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Hope you and Bill feel better soon.

Your loss is always a difficult one, moreso given the season. A friend died of pancreatic cancer a few years ago and another friend's father just died of it last week.
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From:gerisullivan
Date:December 22nd, 2003 11:00 am (UTC)
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Yes, even when you have the time and information to "prepare," the reality of death and grief is a different thing, and rarely a predictable one. Sympathy, and may you go gently through the rest of the holiday season and into the coming year.

Good luck on the getting well soon front -- to you, to Bill, and to your parents. I really, really hope I avoid the bugs that are so very present this year. I'd say, "until after moving day, at least," but then there's my New Year's trip, a weekend-long meeting, coming back to Minnesota followed by wrap-up here and a cross-country drive...and I hope to be chin deep in an exciting work project, too, so there really isn't an "until" time until well after winter has passed.
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From:the_leewit
Date:December 22nd, 2003 03:41 pm (UTC)
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:::Hugs:::
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From:shadowriderhope
Date:December 22nd, 2003 05:49 pm (UTC)
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*hugs* and I'm sorry to hear about your friend. :-( Even when you know something's coming, it's hard. I lost a friend/cousin to pancreatic; it's a bitch, hard and fast.

Hang in there. If you need something in the next few days, give a holler, I can bring it over to you.
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