Brian is working on a lab-based PhD at the University of Michigan (microbiology/immunology) of unknown duration--like most PhDs, it drags on, and in this case he is required to get published before defending, and he cannot control the timing of that--and he is unable to relocate to Ohio at this time without forfeiting that program. In light of the baby coming and the fact that my parents and extended family are all in Michigan, we have decided the best thing for us is for me to move back home and focus on preparing for the baby, which will be my/our first.
I have let the folks at work know that I will be leaving ARA/KAD at the end of the week, resigning in order to move back to my home town of Ann Arbor, Michigan, get married, and start our family.
This was not an easy decision, but it’s what we have decided to do.
So in between now and the baby coming, (probably in this order), we will plan our TAFF trip, I will move out of Ohio, we will go on the TAFF trip, get married, find a place of our own, figure out a delivery plan and choose a OBGYN and/or doula or midwife (recommendations welcome) and prepare for that, and no doubt in due course accumulate a bunch of new brightly colored plastic stuff with rounded corners and soft cottony stuff with animals and aliens on it such as one does these days for a new little person. I believe we have some classes to take, too.
We are actually just now chatting with Corflu and Eastercon/Odyssy folks about Programming, and it looks like some fun things are in order, so that's good. And being out of work and pregnant I should have lots of time to sort pictures and prep TAFF trip reports afterwards, though they might thus end up being overly chatting about side pregnancy things (apologies in advance).
I will miss being Scalzi's geographically closest friend and being in close proximity to the CFG folks, who have been awesome, as well as close to a couple other friends I've made down here, but we promise to visit, and you are all invited to our moving party, which invitation I will make more certain once we, erm, schedule it. :)
And it will be good to be living back among our Michigan peeps and family and close to a *pool* (I am frankly surprised how much I am looking forward to that. Yellow Springs has no indoor pools), and of course I am very much looking forward to moving in with my life partner and dear sweetie and starting this new chapter of our lives.
I feel like I should also mention that though Brian and I are both social hubs and have loads of friends (or perhaps because we are lucky to have so many friends but also have a lot of expenses and unknown changes coming up) we are currently planning to have a very small, fairly private wedding, hopefully followed later by a couple of receptions/parties in distant parts where we have other relatives and friends. So, um, we love you all but odds are you're not invited, and please don't take it personally. S'ok? Ok.
We do not know how long we will be in Michigan after the baby is born or where we will go next. That pretty much depends on what opportunities Brian finds and when he graduates. We'll keep you posted.
This has been your local neighborhood life announcement. You may now return to your regularly scheduled Tuesday evening activities.