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You're welcome. Thank you for posting something positive in response. Sometimes encouragement is something we are surprised to find we really need and I really needed some, this week. It meant a lot.
Netmouse, it is very hard for me to post something in threads about racism, because of the great emotional drain involved, which I really cannot afford at this point in my life. I also try not to read these threads but I read yours because they make sense to me and are intelligently argued and non-confrontational in the way I can relate to.
It is hard not to come into any conversation with some assumptions of otherness, be it gender, sexual orientation, race, disability, class, culture and language, etc. As a member of several minority groups (an in-closet and non-outspoken member of most, but still) I am obligated to pay close attention to these conversations. Yes, it is very possible for a non-racist person to blurt something racist, just as it is very possible for an able-bodied person from an able-bodied family to say something horribly hurtful about disability without constructing his/her identity around hatred of the disabled. Most people hurt most other people out of casual ignorance, but the hurt is much worse when one party belongs to an underprivileged group. "What you just said is racist" is a good way for this ignorance to be exposed. I am sure I said a fair amount of insensitive things in my time and would much rather be told about it so I can think about it and take care of my ignorance and apologize. We are all human and we cannot all be knowledgeable about all people all the time, but the "ok, thank you for saying this, let me correct my erroneous perception, let's move on" element should be present, I think. I hope I am making sense.
Thank you again for posting.