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September 20th, 2007
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A Papa finds his Pride
Check out this video of the Mayor of San Diego explaining a change of stance on gay marriage (posted yesterday after he refused to veto a resolution on the topic that he had previously promised to veto). It is sincere, and to the point (a "separate but equal" institution like civil union is not the same, and not in line with justice), and obviously heartfelt.

He explains that members of his family and staff are part of the Gay and Lesbian community, including his daughter Lisa.

"In the end, I couldn't look them in the face and tell them that their relationships, that their very lives, were any less meaningful than [mine with my own wife]."

(he had trouble saying that last because he was choked up with emotion)


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Date:September 20th, 2007 08:39 pm (UTC)
And compare to Vice President Dick Cheney, whose daughter is gay and he says he loves her, her partner, and their child, but supports the administration's line on gay marriage.

Of compare to Presidential candidate Alan Keyes, whose daughter is gay and when it came out he threw her out of the house.
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Date:September 20th, 2007 08:40 pm (UTC)
FINALLY a politician I feel like hugging instead of slapping.
Date:September 20th, 2007 08:49 pm (UTC)
EXACTLY. Thank you.
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Date:September 20th, 2007 09:03 pm (UTC)
Well, better late than never.

Date:September 20th, 2007 09:14 pm (UTC)
Well, right, it would have been nice if he had seen things this way all along, but you know what? I am glad to see people who have taken a definite stand on something like this have their minds changed because they have really taken the time to reconsider their position and found it to be unacceptable.

The fact that someone can admit they were wrong, and do it in such a public manner, is very praiseworthy in a culture that, in general, does not value things like critical thinking, humility, and the courage to say, "I was wrong" and explain why they realized this.

Granted, some will take issue with the fact that it was his own daughter who changed his mind, but really, I think most of us reach our own greatest points of clarity when something actually affects us personally. So I'm not sure he can really be faulted for that, especially when we look at other politicians like those already mentioned who have gay children who have NOT changed their minds, at least not from the aspect of moving toward political/legal changes that recognize the rights of their own kids, when they possess the power to do so.

I think this kind of behavior needs to be praised, because it is by these personal experiences that minds are changed and ultimately that is what needs to happen in order for legal recognition of gay marriages. If only more folks would have the same realization that it is simply a matter of equality and stopped acting out of fear and homophobia, we'd be in a better place on this important issue.
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Date:September 20th, 2007 10:34 pm (UTC)
You're right that it's rare for the bigots to say, in such a public forum, "I was wrong."
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Date:September 20th, 2007 09:26 pm (UTC)
I cried watching that. Thanks for the link.
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Date:September 21st, 2007 01:39 am (UTC)
I did too. It was one of the most beautiful, touching things I've ever seen.
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Date:September 20th, 2007 10:30 pm (UTC)


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Date:September 20th, 2007 11:18 pm (UTC)
That was great! Thanks for the link.

I hope that condemning the "separate, but equal" premise of "civil unions" instead of marriage catches on. (Are you listening, Hillary?)
Date:September 20th, 2007 11:47 pm (UTC)
Sometimes, knowing someone (or realizing you know someone) makes all the difference.

The Justice who cast the deciding vote in Bowers v. Hardwick, Justice Powell, said years later that he regretted his vote and would have voted differently if he'd understood what the decision meant, if only he'd known someone who was gay.

As it happens, one of his law clerks at the time of the decision was gay, and was encouraged by his friends who knew about the case to come out to the Justice and put a personal face on it. He refused to, out of fear that it would hurt his career.
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Date:September 21st, 2007 03:45 am (UTC)
Wow. Just... wow.

I am blown away. I want to give him a hug.

Maybe change really *is* possible.
Date:September 23rd, 2007 04:43 am (UTC)
Yoinked and re-posted. It was popping up a lot on my friends' list, so I gave it a view and immediately needed to spread it.
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